After going through a separation, it is likely that nothing is as important to you as maintaining custody of your children. For many newly single parents, fighting for custody can be a toxic battle that leads to stress and upset. But this does not have to be the case. By being prepared and communicating effectively, you will stand a good chance of experiencing a smooth process and a positive outcome.
If you want to build a case for gaining shared or full custody of your children, consider the following practices.
Fight for the right reasons
If you are currently dealing with heartbreak or jealousy, your vision may be blurred due to these issues. You may be tempted to fight for sole custody as a form of revenge, for example. Take the time to reflect on your motivations behind gaining custody and make sure that you always have your child’s best interests at heart.
Focus on effective communication and transparency
Once you are satisfied that you are filing for custody for the right reasons, create a plan regarding how to communicate well with your ex. Usually, the best way to communicate is to be open and transparent. Playing mind games or lying about your intentions is only going to lead to a more toxic relationship with the other parent of your children.
Gather the appropriate documentation
If you have not been living in the same home as your child for a significant amount of time, it will be necessary to build a case to support your claim that you have a strong relationship with your child. Provide documentation such as a history of visits you have made to your child, call logs between you and your child, or events that you have attended that relate to your child.
You will need to compile all of this information into a written submission to the courts. This submission should outline your argument as to why you believe you should have custody of your child.
If you want to gain custody of your child after separating from their other parent, take early action to prepare a compelling case.